When you order food in New York, you’re usually asked if you’d like it “to stay” or “to go.” This statement always makes me laugh, only because you’d never hear anyone in Texas ask the question in this way.
However, one day last week, while I was with Cristina, who was visiting from Austin, I was thinking about how much I was missing home when the cashier at Ferrara Bakery asked me this question. I immediately connected my thoughts to what she’d ask and realized I’d been asking myself the same questions for weeks.
To stay in New York, or to go back to Texas…It almost seems like a no-brainer, but this decision is in no way, shape or form that easy. I love New York City. I’ve learned way more about myself than I could’ve imagined in just two months, and I’ve matured in numerous ways. I know it’s a result of tackling this city on my own and learning exactly what it’s like to be away from everything comfortable back home.
Let’s not forget, of course, everything about this city and how it factors into why I moved here. There’s almost little not to love. Numerous things to see and do, the amazing food, the interesting and passionate people I’ve met, the opportunities to do some amazing things in journalism…The few — but somewhat important cons — range from ridiculous prices for everything, from rent to food, to little things, like subway conundrums, the crazy heat wave, a seemingly forever feeling of loneliness, the dirtiness, the cutthroat parts of trying to survive…all of the stereotypes that come with the city (and hold true, for the most part).
I think of Texas, and I think of family, friends, cheaper living, comfort in knowing people and places, Shiner Bock, my favorite food…everything. But I also think of less opportunity to start the career I want. Maybe I’m wrong, but it’s hard to tell.
I’m conflicted. “To stay, or to go?” Do I stay in New York, wait it out and see if I get the job that fits perfectly for me? Or do I move back to my home state and continue looking for opportunities all over the country? Is it worth it to stay a little longer here, try to be patient and wait this out? Or is it more practical to go back to familiarity and start from there?
I guess there’s no right answer, but I have to figure out what to do in a matter of weeks, and that — to me — is terrifying.
I say follow your intuition. Your intuition never lies to you. Good luck!
Hey Lisa! When you figure out what is most important to you, then you will know what to do. You either set out to be the person you dream of being, which will come with hard times, or do what is safe and will make you happy right now. Just remember, family and friends will always be there for you no matter what, but an opportunity like no other may not. Good luck!
I was chatting with my new room mate about this yesterday. Some of her best friends moved to NYC after high school/ college to pursue acting careers, a path equally as challenging as your journalism path. She said some of them waited it out and have found their niche, other moved back almost immediately. We decided it takes around 9 months to adjust to a change like that. You’re still recovering/adjusting to the culture shock. As much as I miss you and want to you be closer to me, I want to see you live out your dream. Wait it out. See what happens. As long as you have the support of your friends and family, I think you can make it. But then again, NYC is not the only place where dreams are made. Don’t think about it too much (way easier said than done), be patient and enjoy the adventure! Plus, you have to stay there long enough for me to get some money to come visit! Love you!!
Hi! I found your website by searching for Media Bistro’s twitter. Found it! hah Im living in South Texas and Im originally from El Paso. I’ve been thinking of moving to NYC and try to wing it as a photographer. Im willing to drop everything here and hustle the Big Apple.
As for your ‘To stay, or to go?’ situation, I would say to try your best to get what you want. Family and friends will always be there to support you if you fail. Im willing to take that risk… only because we live once. All you can do is try your best. Good luck with your decision!
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Ms. Lisa Carter,
I admire everything you have given up to follow your dreams: Shiner Bock, close friends and family, comfort, home, and even Bobcat Country. But you are still young and beautiful. You have plenty of time to be comfortable.
As journalists we either sit next to the phone waiting for a bigger and better job opportunity or for breaking news. We have it drilled into our heads that sometimes you may have pick up and move to find news or a job. We understand that sometimes it takes years for us to finally settle down, breathe and start a family. But that comes with the dream of working and playing with the best. We get pounded on how horrible the industry and pay can be, but the truth is we don’t love it for the money.
Just a perspective…so many people wish they have stayed in your shoes, but fell to homesickness. Homesickness is a state of mind–something that you just learn to deal with (harsh… I’m sorry). I have never lived alone in a big bad city, took on a non-paid internship and stuck it out, but I have moved cross country with my parents and brothers (away from everything I knew and loved). It is nowhere near the same, but I can understand your reasons to leave.
Lisa you have the biggest support group out of anyone I know. Regardless of your decision, know that everyone will be right by your side (physically or mentally).
In my opinion do what journalists do best–pro/con list.
Love your biggest fan,
Karen A. Zamora
P.S. letter coming soon!